I am a recently disabled, non-military husband with a soon-to-be Army wife of 11 years and two great kids under 12 years old. I take meds for OCD/ADHD and do quite fine, I am very capable of taking care of my kids. my parents and my wife's parents are not so nice. it has been insinuated by both grandparents that they might try to seek custody if my wife joins the Army, because I am disabled. yes this is a very mean thing to do, but they are very selfish people set in the old ways of the male/female household roles. this is one of the reasons my wife insisted we move away last month to another state. I really hoped the Army would help us if this transpired, but I was told this is a civil matter.So instead of worring about deploment to Iraq, we have to deal with this. advice would be greatly appreciated. thank you in advance.