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Army Steve's Wife, Michelle

Troop Extensions: (((((((((HUGS))))))))) to families and a comment to the press

The Pentagon today announced today more troop extensions for soldiers currently in Iraq.  The intent of these extensions is to bolster the forces in the region for the upcoming Iraqi elections.  The end result will be 150,000 troops in the region, with 1500 arriving from the 82nd Airborne out of Ft. Bragg, and 10,400 being extended thorough March.  Some of those extended will be facing up to 15 month deployments, contrary to the information previously released by the Pentagon, which had indicated that the troops that might be extended were ones who initially had less than 1 year deployments (for a maximum of 12 months in theater.)

To those who are affected by this, including friends that I have made because of our IRR recall, I'd like to send some (((((((((HUGS))))))))).  This really stinks.  Especially right before the holidays.

Even the Army realizes that this is hard on families.  They had, according to various sources, tried really, really hard to avoid this scenario because of the added strain on these soldiers and the families supporting them at home.  However, senior officials made the call that this “deployment alteration“ was necessary, to ensure the security of the Iraqi elections.  Presumably if we can help the Iraqis have free and meaningful elections, we can get more of our guys home sooner in the long run, so I can't really fault Pentagon thinking on this one. It doesn't make it any easier on the families affected, but I can at least understand the reasons behind the decision.

What I do fault with and what I cannot understand is yet another assinine comment in the press by yet another reporter who, sitting behind their desk, feels that somehow they are an expert on the feelings of military families around the globe.  Apparently, because they have read some stories about military families, and may even have written one themselves, they fell they have their finger on the pulse of the military spouse.  Thomas Ricks, of the Washington Post, writes, “In the past, such extensions have caused anguish among family members who have been counting down the days until the return of their deployed soldiers.  But as extensions have become more common in Iraq, spouses have come to anticipate such moves.“

So, for Mr. Ricks, and the rest of the press out there, I have the following comments:

Mr. Ricks, as the wife of a deployed soldier, I find your evaluation of the feelings of military families, at best, way off the mark.  You say that "In the past, such extensions have caused anguish among family members who have been counting down the days until the return of their deployed soldiers.  But as extensions have become more common in Iraq, spouses have come to anticipate such moves."  Yes, we may be painfully aware that extensions and alterations to deployment schedules are possible.  However, PAINFUL is the operative word.  Every time a single soldier is extended, some family around the world grieves, and with them all of their extended family of military spouses.  The extensions today are NO LESS DIFFICULT than those faced by other families last year, and those that come in the future will continue to be felt deep in the hearts of families around the globe.  Please, do your job and report the news.  But do not dare to think that you can comment on the feelings of military spouses; you have clearly proven that you are way out of touch in this area.

Published Wednesday, December 01, 2004 7:22 PM by msmith

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msmith said:

Hey folks, stop complaining because we are there to save the Iraqi people. We shouldn't ocmplain at all because it's our responsibility to get them on the road to democracy and free them from all the oppression they are suffering from!

*sarcasm*

F the Goverment, and those who make these policies while they all sit around fires and give their families gifts and laugh while the rest of us suffer constant anxiety and worry over our own family

GO AMERIKKKA!
December 1, 2004 10:38 PM
 

msmith said:

I take issue with your comments about Mr. Tom Ricks. Tom, is quite possibly, THE preeminent American journalist on military and defense issues. He often "tells it like it is" and this bravery has led to some attacks from the Rumsfeld/Wolfowitz cabal.

I'd suggest you take a look at Tom's 1997 classic, "Making the Corps." I read that book and I think he damn well captures the hopes,m dreams and fears of a marine Boot camp platoon at Parris Island.

While there is no "right way" for a military family to feel, I think that you are blinded by your support of the current administration.

ANGER might just be an understatement about how the families of extended Reserve/Guard members that I know from NY feel about this.
December 2, 2004 10:46 AM
 

msmith said:

IRR Soldier, I certainly appreciate your comments. And while Mr. Ricks may be knowledgable about military matters, I stand by my original statement. It is not a political matter, as I have said many times in this space; we are there and we need to deal with the situation as it stands, no matter who is in the White House. The houses that matter to me are the ones where hearts are breaking at the news of these extensions. PAIN and GRIEF are the emotions being felt by military families all around the world, and some of these very spouses, affected VERY personally by these extensions, felt Mr. Rick's comments were a slap in the face from yet another media personality who has never walked in their shoes but claims to speak for them. (And I will check out Tom's book; as a military spouse, I am always interested in hearing about the perspective of service members.)
December 2, 2004 11:46 AM
 

msmith said:

I originally posted this on my blog, http://vernsblog.thegillfamily.us:8180/archive/2004/12/01/640.aspx, referring to this post, but it's not showing up, so I'm posting it here;

Michelle, as the name states, is apparently bettter qualified to judge the reactions of military families than a reporter. I mean, even if Thomas Ricks has well over twenty years experience, and has been called "one of the most senior defense reporters in the country", even if he has won a Pulitzer Prize for National Affairs for aftermath coverage of September 11, and even if has also been called "the best military reporter in the business", Michelle is obviously more qualified to write about military families.
EEHHHEEEHHEHHEEH!!!! (Buzzer noise) WRONG ANSWER!!!!

Listen, you can talk about your experience, or your friends and families experience, but don't presume to know what military families in general are thinking, simply because you are a military spouse. You have no more insight than I do.
(No, I'm not in the military, but my sister was, and is now dead because of the military, although not from combat)

Case in point: It bewilders me that so many military men/women/families support Furious George, when, regardless of his time in the TANG, disputed or not, he clearly used his influence to avoid duty in Vietnam!!
More importantly, some of these same members/families vehemently accuse Kerry of questionable morals and ethics, despite the indisputable fact that he did serve, in a combat zone!

There is no rhyme nor reason to this.

I believe there are plenty of families who have been counting the days, and do feel the pain of not being able to see their loved when they were supposed to. Additionally, I believe there are lots of families who have begun to anticipate delays in their loved ones return.

Mrs. Smith, I find your evaluation of the feelings of military families, at best, irrelevant. I also find your attack on Mr. Ricks to be baseless and petulant.

But, then again, I am just a guy with a dead family member as a result of the military; what do I know???


I would also like to add that I feel IRR Soldier has put his finger on some of my sentiments with his statement;
"I think that you are blinded by your support of the current administration"


Regardless of anything else, I do feel for those whose loved ones are not returning to them soon enough, or in worse scenarios, at all.
December 2, 2004 2:16 PM
 

msmith said:

Vern,

First of all, I am very sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine your grief at the loss of a sibling, no matter what the cause.

And I do appreciate your comments on Mr. Rick's qualifications. I have actually emailed Mr. Ricks and, from his reply, find him to be a personable and fair reporter who has actually spent some time with our deployed soldiers. That said, even "the best military reporter in the business" can make mistakes. While he did not intend to imply that military families are finding these extensions easier, many readers did take it to mean just that. Words themselves are not hurtful, but how they are interpreted definitely can be, and this is a case in point.

Thank you, speaking of cases, for making my case about perspective. I certainly hope that I am never able speak from your perspective as a surviving family member. And while I certainly cannot speak for all military spouses, I can tell you how I feel with a great deal of certainty, and I do my best to honestly relay the feelings of some of the brave, amazing military spouses that I have had the privledge to get to know over the last few months.

As for my politics, well, I can honestly say I don't know right from left. What I do know is that debating the situation all day won't change the fact that we are in it. My support, therefore, goes to our troops, not any political party. I can only hope that those in a position to actually make the decisions are wise and able to consider the best interests of our men and women in uniform when making the tough calls that they do. And hopefully those decisions will result in more of our guys home rather than facing horrible extensions in the future.
December 2, 2004 8:26 PM
 

msmith said:

Michelle,
Thank you for your kind words.
As for the rest of your statement;
Very well put. I completely agree that even the best reporter can make mistakes. As for the readers who were hurt by the statements Mr. Ricks made, I imagine they did not take the time to, nor give consideration to the fully understand the intentions of Mr. Ricks' article.
But I digress.

Regardless of right/left, I do support the troops in that I hope they are taken care of, are kept as safe as possible, and return as soon as is possible. My support does not extend to their charlatan-in-chief.
December 3, 2004 1:03 AM
 

msmith said:

If you do not support our Commander-in-Chief, you do not support our servicemembers.
By the way, an overwhelming majority of all servicemembers have shown their support for President George W. Bush in a recent military.com poll.
USA - Love it or leave it...
December 13, 2004 2:06 PM
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