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Army Steve's Wife, Michelle

The IRR ... Disney style! (Talking to your kids about deployments)

The country is being attacked by terrorists and regular forces are coming up short.  The leader has decided to expand the forces, and some who have previously served are being called back into ranks.  Families are left on short notice, but it is necessary for the good of the country. 

Sounds a lot like the recent IRR callups, right?  Actually, it is the premise of Mulan, the most recent Disney feature film to come to DVD.  As my daughter and I watched it last night, I was really struck by the similarities of the situation in the movie to what my own family has experienced this year.  Of course, my daughter isn't about to run off and take her Daddy's place so that he doesn't have to go into the Army (she is only two...), but nonetheless, it was a great opportunity to discuss some of what has gone on with her.  It is really hard, as most military spouses with preschoolers will attest, to help children understand WHERE Daddy has gone and WHY.  So, I definitely take advantage of every opportunity to help explain things to her, and I recommend that others do the same.  I think that children comprehend a lot more than we give them credit for.  Unfortunately, they often lack the verbal and emotional skills to discuss what they are perceiving and feeling, so many of these things are internalized.  A movie such as this opens up the opportunity to discuss some of these things and to express those feelings.

On a lighter note, Mulan is also a great family film, unlike much of what Disney releases.  In many of the other films, the villans are horribly scary (these are supposed to be suitable for children!) and the whole purpose of the story is getting the Princess (whichever one, take your pick) to hook up with whatever handsome but shallow prince happens to be around this time.  (Don't get me wrong - I like the Princesses as entertainment, but I am not sure they are the greatest example for my daughter.)  The story of Mulan is about honor, devotion to family, and patriotism, which are much more important values to instill in our children, especially in today's world.  And in the end, the world is saved and everyone lives happily ever after, of course.  Hopefully our IRR story will continue to mirror this fabulous Disney tale as it continues to unfold.

Published Sunday, November 21, 2004 11:52 PM by msmith

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msmith said:

We're behind you all if it means anything.
My son, stationed at Ramstein AB, Germany sent the following - he didn't know who was the author??? But someone put some good thought into sharing one aspect of what is going on.

TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS,
HE LIVED ALL ALONE,
IN A ONE BEDROOM HOUSE MADE OF
PLASTER AND STONE.

I HAD COME DOWN THE CHIMNEY
WITH PRESENTS TO GIVE,
AND TO SEE JUST WHO
IN THIS HOME DID LIVE.

I LOOKED ALL ABOUT,
A STRANGE SIGHT I DID SEE,
NO TINSEL, NO PRESENTS,
NOT EVEN A TREE.

NO STOCKING BY MANTLE,
JUST BOOTS FILLED WITH SAND,
ON THE WALL HUNG PICTURES
OF FAR DISTANT LANDS.

WITH MEDALS AND BADGES,
AWARDS OF ALL KINDS,
A SOBER THOUGHT
CAME THROUGH MY MIND.

FOR THIS HOUSE WAS DIFFERENT,
IT WAS DARK AND DREARY,
I FOUND THE HOME OF A SOLDIER,
ONCE I COULD SEE CLEARLY.

THE SOLDIER LAY SLEEPING,
SILENT, ALONE,
CURLED UP ON THE FLOOR
IN THIS ONE BEDROOM HOME.

THE FACE WAS SO GENTLE,
THE ROOM IN SUCH DISORDER,
NOT HOW I PICTURED
A UNITED STATES SOLDIER.

WAS THIS THE HERO
OF WHOM I'D JUST READ?
CURLED UP ON A PONCHO,
THE FLOOR FOR A BED?

I REALIZED THE FAMILIES
THAT I SAW THIS NIGHT,
OWED THEIR LIVES TO THESE SOLDIERS
WHO WERE WILLING TO FIGHT.

SOON ROUND THE WORLD,
THE CHILDREN WOULD PLAY,
AND GROWNUPS WOULD CELEBRATE
A BRIGHT CHRISTMAS DAY.

THEY ALL ENJOYED FREEDOM
EACH MONTH OF THE YEAR,
BECAUSE OF THE SOLDIERS,
LIKE THE ONE LYING HERE.

I COULDN'T HELP WONDER
HOW MANY LAY ALONE,
ON A COLD CHRISTMAS EVE
IN A LAND FAR FROM HOME.

THE VERY THOUGHT
BROUGHT A TEAR TO MY EYE,
I DROPPED TO MY KNEES
AND STARTED TO CRY.

THE SOLDIER AWAKENED
AND I HEARD A ROUGH VOICE,
"SANTA DON'T CRY,
THIS LIFE IS MY CHOICE;

I FIGHT FOR FREEDOM,
I DON'T ASK FOR MORE,
MY LIFE IS MY GOD,
MY COUNTRY, MY CORPS."

THE SOLDIER ROLLED OVER
AND DRIFTED TO SLEEP,
I COULDN'T CONTROL IT,
I CONTINUED TO WEEP.

I KEPT WATCH FOR HOURS,
SO SILENT AND STILL
AND WE BOTH SHIVERED
FROM THE COLD NIGHT'S CHILL.

I DIDN'T WANT TO LEAVE
ON THAT COLD, DARK, NIGHT,
THIS GUARDIAN OF HONOR
SO WILLING TO FIGHT.

THEN THE SOLDIER ROLLED OVER,
WITH A VOICE SOFT AND PURE,
WHISPERED, "CARRY ON SANTA,
IT'S CHRISTMAS DAY, ALL IS SECURE."

ONE LOOK AT MY WATCH,
AND I KNEW HE WAS RIGHT.
"MERRY CHRISTMAS MY FRIEND,
AND TO ALL A GOOD NIGHT."

PLEASE. Christmas will be coming soon
and some credit is due to our U.S. service men and women for our being able
to celebrate these festivities.Let's try in this small way to pay a tiny bit
of what we owe. Make people stop and think of our heroes, living and dead,
who sacrificed themselves for us. Please, do your small part to plant this
small seed.
You might like to check out this site,

http://www.americasupportsyou.mil/

November 22, 2004 9:54 AM
 

msmith said:

What a fantastic poem! Thanks! And best wishes to your son as well!
November 22, 2004 9:44 PM
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